Every day, we face challenges and situations that trigger emotions, happiness, joy, sadness and most times, anger.
Everyone gets angry. It’s a normal emotion, and there’s probably a good reason why you feel that way.
“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger” – Buddha
Anger is a powerful emotion, and it can make you hurt other people and make you behave badly and uncontrollably.
“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” – Chinese proverb
If anger is a common emotion in your life, chances are you’re causing undue harm to yourself and others. Anger can be caused by both external and internal events.
People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming.
Here are some shocking ways anger can destroy your life.
1. Affect relationships:
How you deal with anger can also cultivate anger and hate, especially if you release your emotions by lashing out at other people and destroying things. Doing this can ruin relationships.
At home, constantly nagging at your partner and kids as a way of releasing the anger inside you can ruin emotional bonds. At work, yelling at your co-workers makes you a terror, and if you are not the boss, you can get fired for misconduct.
At the very least, your anger can cause people to feel put off, upset, intimidated, afraid, or a handful of other unpleasant emotions. You’re also running the risk of pushing loved ones out of your life for good.
2. Affect health:
Many of us consider anger as a bad emotion. As a result, we tend to bottle it up, rather than express it. But, keeping it inside will do you no good, either.
Every time you bury this emotion deep into your core, it grows until it overwhelms the positive and happy emotions, making you suffer from depression and anxiety.
3. Affects your work:
Anger makes you lose focus. You will find it difficult to concentrate on accomplishing the tasks at hand.
When you are filled with anger, you cannot produce creative and useful ideas,which can help you accomplish quality output at work. If you get uncontrollably angry all the time, it can get in the development of your career.
4. Makes you hurt innocent people:
If you fail to address this anger to the rightful person, you are likely to vent out your emotions on your kids who are innocent and defenseless from your wrath.
5. It can boomerang back at you:
Hurting other people will lead to guilt, self-hate, shame and low self-esteem. Lashing out at other people will not only hurt them. It can also hurt you, and for a long time.
If you cannot handle anger well, these things will happen inside your body each time you get angry and they could even lead to short and long-term health problems, like:
- Stomach pains and digestion problems
- Recurring headaches
- Eczema flare-ups
- High blood pressure
- Heart attacks
By simply doing the following things, you can avoid the detrimental effects of anger:
- Think before you speak
- Take 10 slow, deep breaths
- Determine if the situation is worth
- Use humor to release tension
- Practice relaxation skills
Tips to control your anger:
Some forms of exercise that might appeal to you and help you control your anger include:
- Weight training
- Martial arts
Things you should never do when you’re angry:
- You shouldn’t drive
- You shouldn’t keep arguing
Quotes about Anger:
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness ‒ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Man should forget his anger before he lies down to sleep ‒ Mahathma Gandhi
Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean ‒ Maya Angelou
A man is about as big as the things that make him angry ‒ Winston Churchill
Those whom God wishes to destroy, he first makes angry ‒ Mark Twain